Remember that it takes a couple days for the heads to settle into their tuning. This is due to the stretching process of the plastic stabilizing. Room acoustics is a big factor that is sometimes overlooked, especially during recording.
Sound absorption materials change sound dramatically and alteryour perception of the drum tones. Sound waves are easier to control when thereare less reflections from hard surfaces in a muted room.
All drums have a sweet spot or a specific range of head tension that produces the best overall sound. The sustain is longer and the tone is very full. A suspension mount on the toms makes a noticeable improvement in the resonance. The head is free to vibrate without choking.
Trial and error is the best teacher when trying to figure out how to tune drums. Experiment with different heads, tuning and muffling combinations. Take notes as you go and consider writing a personal tuning manual. Your 'Ultimate Drum Sound' will be accomplished before you know it.
Assuming you have quality drums and heads, the big secret of figuring out how to tune drums is YOU and YOUR Incredible Ears! Good luck and keep a Happy Beat!
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